Happy New Year from the WSLEO family to the world. This week we reflect on our year, the year ahead, and how our very different brains can use the same tools for personal growth. While setting the bar too high at the beginning of the year can be a recipe for disaster, there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of “new year new me” energy to set goals. There is something super attractive about vulnerability. If you haven't already, prioritize talking with your partner about how you envision 2023.

They are back! COVID hit their home for the third time in the past 2 years, but they are fully recovered and ready to do all things WSLEO. They had a lot to cover and shared their thoughts and perspectives on the passing of Stephen tWitch Boss, the Tory Lanez and Meg Thee Stallion trial, the unfortunate yet predictable impact of men becoming an extra child in a marriage, and TWO “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” submissions. Yes this is a long one!

This week Stephanie shares some gems she has encountered in Yung Pueblos new book Lighter. We have discussed extensively how our childhoods impact our perception and our behavior, but what about tough moments now? How can self awareness and great communication skills prevent us from falling into and staying in toxic patterns? As creatures of habit, we have to be intentional in our attempts to be better and do better.

Stephanie and Travis are back after a heavy couple of weeks. Stephanie has a PSA about how our emotions are all over the place right before that time of the month. “Did You Know” Men make up their minds about marriage pretty fast? Umm in what universe?

Stephanie and Travis are back after taking a week off to recharge and recalibrate. What is the logic behind why we can be super productive while we are clocked in at work, but then lack productivity while working on personal projects? Is it just decades of conditioning? Are we burnt out? Whatever it may be, Stephanie and Travis are working on developing a new relationship with productivity.

This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on which love language they use to love their friends. Stephanie’s “friendship love language” may be outdated considering how her life has evolved. Travis unfortunately wasn’t able to identify his “friendship love language”. Maybe from a lack of friendships or a lack of expressing love.

Did you know, “married women are more than twice as likely to use a vibrator than non-married women?” Great more rhetoric that implies your sex life dies when you get married. It’s honestly not surprising anymore. But what if we flipped that idea on its head? Team work makes the dream work, sometimes a vibrator is on the team.

What in the world convinced two 21 year olds to get married while the rest of us were trying to figure out the right water to shots ratio to avoid a hangover? Tabitha and Pete Fields try to help Stephanie and Travis make sense of it. Six years, one baby, buying and selling a home, and moving to a different state later, they still like each other.

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss our inner child vs. our adaptive child. One is curious, creative, and forgiving, the other is living out a trauma response. One can be nurtured and celebrated in our adulthood and intimate relationships, the other is a relationship killer. Is our intimate partner responsible for healing our childhood trauma? Or is it our job to reparent ourselves?

It’S jUsT a PiEcE oF pApeR. Dig into the WHY you are opposed to marriage. Are you truly just holding onto a false sense of control? Are you believing the false narrative that sex suddenly stops? Whatever your reasoning, talking negatively about marriage in front of married people is wack. Stephanie and Travis discuss other people's problems when they give their two cents on the Nia Long and Ime Udoka scandal.

In reflecting on their week, things got a bit heated between Travis and Stephanie. It was about food, again. They aren't immune to the recurring disagreements. Just like many of you, they struggle with eating the food at home. This issue is not made any easier by the fact that Travis finds no joy at all in preparing a meal. Stephanie sees it as a more serious issue, no one wants to eat food prepared by someone who didn't put love into it, and possibly made it while harboring negative feelings.

Would you look at that… they’re talking about sex AGAIN. But who's complaining? Y’all love it here! How long should good sex last? The answer might depend on what you define as sex. Depending on who you ask, it can be a whole experience. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they unlocked a new level in their sex life. Finding new ways to be sexual nearly 8 years later is pretty satisfying… see what we did there? We all have experienced wanting sex to last longer or even end faster, Stephanie and Travis give their tips on how to make both happen. Somehow a Viagra and Adderall story makes it into the convo.

Stephanie and Travis did one of their favorite things this past week, enjoy a king sized bed with hotel linens and the air conditioner on blast. The past almost 3 years have been pretty hectic for most of us. Let’s be intentional with getting back to doing the things we love with the people we love.

Let’s focus on non-sexual intimacy, cause if we really think about it, if we get good at it, we might actually have more sex. Are we masking a desire for intimacy by blaming it on a “high sex drive”? Stephanie and Travis discuss how learning how to connect without sex can improve your sex life and can also come in handy when sex isn’t an option. Despite having a healthy sex life, Stephanie craves some improvement in the non-sexual touch department.

Travis and Stephanie speak very candidly about being each other's best friends, but is it toxic that they enjoy doing everything together? When does wanting to spend time together become a red flag? They reflect on Stephanie partaking in Travis' love for film and television, but struggle to identify Stephanie’s passions. Anyone else ever feel passionless or even envious of people who are obviously talented?

This week Stephanie and Travis have three additional producers! They are now accepting topic submissions from their top tier Patrons! Tune in to discover what Travis and Stephanie miss about the city life, how they recover from setbacks and disappointments in their relationship, and their opinion on large age gaps in relationships.

This week Travis and Stephanie talk about the comfort that comes from having friends you can find common ground with. For them that includes parents, married couples, and now podcasters. They may not all follow the same scripts, but they can respect and understand each other’s journeys.

Has our romanticisation of “Ride or Die” culture enabled toxic patterns, specifically for Black and Brown women? This week Stephanie and Travis explore this with Author Lorraine Avila. In her recent article for Refinery29, "It's Time to Retire Toxic Ride-or-Die Culture '' Lorraine shares her personal experience with toxic ride or die culture, how it appears in romantic relationships, friendships, and families. But can ride or die culture be reclaimed, decolonized, and perhaps actually romantic not just the illusion of romance?

Stephanie starts this episode off HOT. Rest assured, Travis didn't do anything. She had to set the record straight out of respect. She may have done lots of healing, and is less reactive than she has been in the past. But she's still from the Bronx and she had to light up a “fan” today. Is We Still Like Each Other the antidote to “Bro-Podcast” culture?

In celebrating 1 year of We Still Like Each Other Stephanie and Travis are joined by newlyweds Ashley and Shomari. After dating for 8 years, they tied the knot. They are literally in the “honeymoon phase”. They discuss why they got married after over 7 years of cohabitation. Shomari and Ashley are the “friend zone” success story that you all have to hear. From mixed signals, holding onto the single life, and ultimatums they found their forever.